Yeah, paperwork isn't foolproof, but it's definitely saved me from some awkward neighbor convos down the line. Had a friend who went handshake-only...let's just say BBQs got real tense after the fence went up in the wrong spot.
Paperwork definitely has its merits, but sometimes a handshake can carry its own unique value. I once knew a couple who bought land from an elderly neighbor on trust alone. Sure, there were risks, but that mutual respect and trust built a relationship that lasted decades. Maybe it's less about paperwork vs handshake and more about clearly communicating expectations from the start...though I'll admit, fences in the wrong spot can make things pretty awkward.
"Maybe it's less about paperwork vs handshake and more about clearly communicating expectations from the start..."
I agree clear communication is key, but even with the best intentions, misunderstandings can happen. When we built our home, a minor boundary discrepancy turned into a months-long headache. Thankfully, paperwork clarified things quickly. Curious though—has anyone here successfully navigated a handshake deal when building a custom home, or is that just too risky these days?
I get the appeal of handshake deals—feels personal, builds trust—but honestly, from my experience building custom homes, it's just not worth the risk. Had a client once who insisted on keeping things informal with his neighbor about a shared driveway. They shook hands, smiled, and everything seemed fine...until construction started. Suddenly the neighbor "remembered" things differently, and we were stuck in limbo for weeks while they sorted it out.
Paperwork isn't about mistrust; it's about clarity. Even when everyone's intentions are good, memories fade or shift over time. Having something written down saves everyone headaches later on. Sure, clear communication helps immensely, but backing it up with documentation is just smart practice these days.
You're spot on about clarity being key. I mean, handshake deals sound nice in theory, and they're great for small stuff—like borrowing tools or swapping favors—but land and property? That's a whole different ballgame. My cousin went through something similar with a fence line that was "agreed upon" verbally. Ended up costing him way more in the long run. Paperwork might feel tedious, but honestly, it's peace of mind you can't put a price tag on...especially when budgets are tight.
