Having done several builds myself, I can relate to the decision fatigue you're mentioning. Couple things I've learned the hard way:
- Limit your choices upfront. Like you said, two or three stores tops is smart. Too many options usually means unnecessary stress and second-guessing.
- Don't underestimate how draining all those tiny decisions become. Picking cabinet handles or tile grout colors sounds trivial...until you've spent hours debating nickel vs chrome.
- Honestly, there's always gonna be something you'd change afterward. Accepting that upfront helps keep perspective.
I wouldn't say avoid building entirely if it's your dream—just know exactly what you're getting into. It takes patience, realistic expectations, and a good sense of humor for when things inevitably go sideways.
"Limit your choices upfront. Like you said, two or three stores tops is smart."
While limiting choices can help with decision fatigue, I'd caution against restricting yourself too much upfront. When I built my place, I initially stuck to just a couple stores, but later realized I'd missed out on some great sustainable options elsewhere—like reclaimed wood flooring and recycled glass countertops. It was a bit more legwork, sure...but worth it in the long run for the eco-friendly results.
I totally get the logic behind limiting your options, but honestly, sometimes branching out can really pay off. When we were building our current place, I initially stuck to two local stores because I figured it would simplify things. It did at first, but then I ended up randomly stumbling across this boutique tile shop—total accident, just happened to be in the neighborhood grabbing coffee—and found the most incredible handmade tiles. They were pricier and definitely not part of the original plan, but they completely transformed our kitchen backsplash.
If I'd stuck strictly to my original two-store limit, I'd never have known what I was missing. Sure, it added another layer of complexity (and expense, lol), but now every time someone visits, those tiles are always one of the first things they comment on. So yeah, limiting your choices is practical, but giving yourself room to explore a little can sometimes lead to the best discoveries...
Yeah, but how do you balance that? Like, how do you know when branching out is worth the extra time and money versus when it just becomes a rabbit hole of endless options...?
It's tricky, honestly. I've found it helps to set clear priorities early—like figuring out what's a "must-have" versus a "nice-to-have." Keeps you from spiraling into endless upgrades and second-guessing every decision...mostly. Hang in there, you're not alone in this struggle.
